Monday, July 26, 2010

Off 2 Camp


Well, we sent the oldest off to kids bible camp this morning....
I am not the sappy type, so while a lot of mamas were crying I was just waving goodbye. I know she will have a great time and I am happy for her.
When anyone would ask her what she was doing this summer, her reply was always, "I'm going to camp".
Should I take offense to that? Is it so bad to be here?
I won't though. She likes it here- she is just excited to be with her friends.
I'm okay with that.
But some other people having been saying to me, "what will you do without your oldest to help with the others?"
At first, I laugh and say "yeah, my nanny is going on vacation", but then a little voice in my head says, "they don't think I can handle my own kids."

I can write a whole other post on taking the bait and being offended for nothing.

But it causes me to think do I have my oldest do too much?

I was the oldest, my mother was the oldest- we turned out good (great if you really want to know the truth ;) )- we are responsible and caring and love being moms.

So, then I thought maybe it is not the oldest I should worry about, but the middles, who seem to have less of a burden since the oldest picks up the slack.
Maybe if they were pulling their own weight (talking about household chores and their rooms- not pulling oxen), I wouldn't feel as if the oldest was doing too much.

So today, I want to open the conversation to anyone with more than one kid, how do you feel about your birth order and what goes along with being the oldest, the middle or the youngest?
I would like to know...

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5 comments:

  1. I remember begging for my Mom to let me go to camp (I was really young) and talked my cousin into going with me and the minute I boarded the bus I was hysterical. But I was only like 8 (I think).

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  2. I think I already expect too much from my oldest, and he's only 6. It's hard for me to remind myself that he's still a kid. But, on the other hand, he is very helpful!

    Remind me...how old are your kids?

    And a random thought...you need pictures of YOU on here! :o)

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  3. My parents had to come and get me from church camp...in 6th grade!!!

    I get the same ?s when Kylie is gone...and although she helps a lot, I also know, that it is just her nature, and I still do the bulk of the work.

    BUT...we have had to tell her to take a few steps back, and let Korinne (who is 3 yrs younger) learn to do some things...and now Connor (who is almost 8, and a boy) is not getting away with not doing chores/responsibilities because he's a middler and a boy!!!

    I was a middle child. I was pretty much lost in the sauce. I try to always remember that...maybe that's why I'm surrounding myself with so many little ones who really need me now...

    When did you become my counselor??? My comments to you have become SO long...

    :)

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  4. It's my pleasure to give you the Versatile Blogger Award today--you have such a thoughtful and creative blog. You can see the announcement at

    http://mommyspirit.blogspot.com/2010/07/i-received-versatile-blogger-award.html

    Have a wonderful day!

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  5. Cute post =) At our house, if you are older than another one, be careful with littler ones... not just ourselves, but others too. My older ones are great at parks with a variety of ages around. =)
    I am the mommy, so I do most the lovely stuff like diapers, etc... and we all share the chore load. =)
    ~Sheri ~ hopping over from Kathi's blog ;^)

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