So here's the deal- I do not have a problem if you have facebook. It is your choice. But here is why I do not have facebook:
1. The husband and I graduated with a class of 600. If I were to go on and join, all those people would be "friending" me. I know, I know- everyone tells me I can ignore them- but if I did that those people who I might bump into (and we do bump into a lot of people because we still live in the town we grew up in), they might question the cold shoulder and brush off.
2. I feel that if me and the husband were to get facebook accounts, it could pose a problem to our marriage. I have seen a lot of wives talking to guys from high school and a lot of husbands talking to girls. Maybe it is all harmless, but I have never been real big on having friends of the opposite sex within the confines of marriage. The husband is not a jealous type, but mainly because he has no reason to be and I would like to keep it that way.
3. I can sometimes get addicted to things that take me away from things that I need to attend to - such as housecleaning, cooking, organizing, etc. I am one of those people who will sit down at the computer and not realize I sat for 3 hours - I need to limit myself and I do not think being on facebook would be a positive thing for me.
4. I find most people that I want to be in contact with on a regular basis, I already am through old fashioned methods such as church, the kids school or the telephone. And even email - not so old fashioned. If on facebook, I would really just be lurking for gossipy dirt on people and some pictures on people that have gained more weight than I after having kids- not healthy, but sadly true.
5. My major problem with Facebook- PEOPLE keep your kids off of it or if you are so inclined to let them on- follow what they are doing. Our whole church has become members of facebook and I have signed on under a friend's password and saw 12 year old girls on there. Ok - so their parents are ok with it. But as I looked at their friends- I saw not only their peers from youth group, but men from our church. Single men, married men, fathers of their friends, friends of their fathers. Why? Because once you list your church affliation, people feel the need to befriend all the people from church. Do you want your daughter talking to men? If we would not let our daughters pick up the phone to call a man or for some of us, we would not allow them to call a male peer- isn't facebook the same thing? Making contact with people we have not said ok to.
Many Christian parents are saying - I control this because it is in my house- but do you?
I saw one young man with a bunch of friends from his high school. One picture of one of his friends, was 2 girls with very low cut shirts on. That picture as we well know can be changed everyday or every hour, whenever the girl wants to. So if the parents of this young man sign on and see the pic one day, it can be very different the next day. Should a young man be staring at such a pic? Don't we go through great lengths to keep our kids away from such pics?
I'll be honest though- It is very hard when the pastor is saying - check out facebook later and you can see the pics from VBS or the church picnic and I do not have an account. Or how about friends getting pregnant and announcing it on facebook, newborn baby pics, or hospital updates from a sickly church member. I have thought of possibly getting a joint account with the husband (the only way I would ever sign up), but then think what about the kids? Will they want an account too when they reach a certain age? I need to be a role model for them as well.
Just something for you to think about from thechattymommy....
P.S.- I hate facebook!